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I used to sacrifice exercise, sleep, and eating healthy, but my health is something I no longer negotiate. Over 2 ½ years ago, I made a change for the better and never looked back. I can’t imagine falling back into those bad habits and allowing myself to run on fumes again. Moms need to recognize that their well-being is essential, not optional. The mindset that moms should take care of everyone before themselves is an outdated strategy. If you put zero effort into your wellness, the results will be lacking.
Barely surviving the day isn’t anything to brag about and is not the path to a fulfilling life. It’s not setting a very good example for your kids either. Moms tend to feel bad all the time about everything and that is something we all need to work on. I rarely feel bad about saying no and it’s quite liberating. Here are a few reasons that cause moms to put everyone else first:
Self-sacrifice mindset
Cultural/social expectations
Time/energy constraints
Loss of identity
Kids, career, and just plain old complacency are some of the challenges with prioritizing one’s health. One of the best ways to get through your day is by using a simple, yet effective to-do list. This can be done on a phone app or in a handwritten journal. My days are very structured with the same healthy habits listed over and over and that consistency is how I get results. Somehow, I manage to complete most of my tasks in between work, school, and sports activities. Not every day is perfect, but I’m pretty happy with my routine.
Our culture leads us to believe that we have to give up everything in order to be a good parent. The truth is, we can’t be the best version of ourselves if we don’t prioritize our health. We are 100% in charge and nobody else can do it for us. It’s tough to help others who are in need if we aren’t in the best physical and mental state.
Incorporating self-care is part of being a good mom. It doesn’t mean luxury spas and exotic vacations, although if your budget allows it, then go for it! Here are my favorite self-care activities:
*exercise
*call a friend
*hobbies (writing, guitar)
*getting out in nature (Maybury Park, South Lyon Rail Trail)
*meditation
*stretch
*journal
*hot tub
*dirtbikes
*church
More than likely, your list will look different than mine. You should tailor it to your interests and needs and focus on what’s important to you. Include tasks that will better you as a person and consider projects or goals you’ve been putting off for a long time.
Moms are spread so thin and there’s not much time for themselves unless they make a conscious effort on a daily basis. The house, meals, kids, pets, and appointments are a full-time job in itself. Working outside the home on top of everything can bring an overwhelming amount of stress. When I look at certain moms, I can tell that they’re an empty shell. The daily grind ends up being robotic and we’re oftentimes just going through the motions with little meaning or enjoyment.
I am a top priority in my family, because without me, everything falls apart! I’m not bragging or trying to toot my own horn, but it’s a fact. Saying “no” to events and gatherings isn’t selfish and can bring peace of mind. Every “no” to something that drains you is a “yes” to your well-being. Your sanity depends on it!
One of my previous articles talks about work-life balance. Moms shouldn’t be losing their identity and working themselves to the bone. There should be a certain amount of enjoyment in each day. Self-care doesn’t have to cost money and there are plenty of activities that are free.
When moms begin to prioritize themselves, everyone benefits. Taking time for rest, joy, and self-care isn’t neglecting your family. By showing yourself love and attention, you set a powerful example for your children and create a healthier, more balanced home.
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